TelephotoMarigold Posted April 21, 2011 Report Share Posted April 21, 2011 I've just come in here to moan, I really, really wanna gain weight and I'm trying really hard and I've gained 3kg in about 2 weeks, but I've lost 2 kgs due to stress... would it be easier if I was a guy seriously??? I'm so sick of people's comments to me about my weight, its hurtful and rude. Why do people think its okay to say "oh hey you're skinny, go eat a hamburger" but its wrong to say to a fat person "oh you're really fat, maybe you should go on a diet". Argh, just angers me so much. We have to accept people who are fat, and we have to treat them as any other person, fat people are told to love themsevles and love their body, yet they are overweight and obese, they are so many mixed messages. I hate it. Why's it okay to comment on someone who is skinny and not okay to comment on someone who is fat. Some people who are fat might have a medical issues, not just to assume they are eating badly, its the same with people who have trouble gaining weight.. Gah, I think stress must do this to me, I don't understand... maybe I just need to eat more chicken I know another female who is the same as me on bttb, but I wonder are there any others out there?? what do guys think? You think people don't say to fat people "Go on a diet lardo" because I can assure you that they do. They don't want to hear that it's party medical and I've been a vegatarian since 1992 and my favourite food isn't actually chips. Have you tried going to a doctor and having tests? For example a thyroid problem could lead to weight problems. While not directly responsible for stress anxiety issues it doesn't help them. The other thing is if you were to speak to a doctor about your weight they might refer you to nutrionist who will help you with diet. The other thing that helps is to keep a diary of what you eat and how you are feeling with a record of what exercise you are doing or activities. You'll be able to see any trends between what is going on with your body and what you are doing and also what you are feeling. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~Zoe~ Posted April 24, 2011 Report Share Posted April 24, 2011 Someone at Mind, the place where I go for help with confidence. Mind is a drop in for people with mental health problems. Well a carboot sale was on today, is every Sunday. He brought a camera, you know the old long type one, where you can change the lenses and it also it has a stand on it. He showed it us all at Mind today, and I felt it, and like he was looking in it, and then he looked at me in it, and I had to cover the lense on it with my hand. My friend accidently forgot that I dont like camera's or having photographs taken, I get very uncomfortable with it and anxious, he just forgot thats all. As I did tell him about it. Never really been able to look in mirrors either. So the thing with the camera's and photographs being taken, the fear... is that a form of BDD (Body Dysmorphic Disorder) I know when you cant look at yourself in a mirror, thats one of the symptoms of it, the doctor diagnosed me with BDD a few years back in 2007. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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TelephotoMarigold Posted April 27, 2011 Report Share Posted April 27, 2011 I've had enough. I'm really really tired. I want to sleep and yet when I go to bed I'm awake for hours just laying there thinking of all the things I should be doing or should have said. And when it comes down to it I just want to die. I've fought depression for most of my life and I just don't see the point of fighting it anymore. I've tried talking about it. Doing stuff about it. Coping with it. But at the end of the day I'm left alone. I've just had my 8th miscarriage and I really can't deal with anything right now. I did everything right, vitamins, gave up coffee, ate right and it still didn't work. I'm just really sad. What do I do now? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Zetti Posted April 27, 2011 Report Share Posted April 27, 2011 Aww damn Tele. I have never had depression so wouldnt dream of telling you how to deal with it. 8 miscarriages Maybe a doctor can tell you what your next option is? Keep your chin up and know that we are here to help by this thread or PM if you need it. I am a good listener if you need to rant Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LauraPhilly!! Posted April 27, 2011 Report Share Posted April 27, 2011 I've had enough. I'm really really tired. I want to sleep and yet when I go to bed I'm awake for hours just laying there thinking of all the things I should be doing or should have said. And when it comes down to it I just want to die. I've fought depression for most of my life and I just don't see the point of fighting it anymore. I've tried talking about it. Doing stuff about it. Coping with it. But at the end of the day I'm left alone. I've just had my 8th miscarriage and I really can't deal with anything right now. I did everything right, vitamins, gave up coffee, ate right and it still didn't work. I'm just really sad. What do I do now? Oh my God Tele, I am so sorry! I cannot simply imagine how you must be feeling right now. Keep thinking positive Tele, there must be something the doctors can do to help you! Feel for you so much sweety! I'm sending a massive HUG with this post! Lots of Love, Laura xxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TelephotoMarigold Posted April 27, 2011 Report Share Posted April 27, 2011 I went private and did IVF. My last chance. The pregnancy lasted 9 weeks. I've talked to doctors and specialists. I've had the tests. I know why. But none of that makes it better. You'd think that knowing it isn't your fault you can't carry a baby to term would make it better but you still blame yourself. You feel useless as a woman. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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LauraPhilly!! Posted April 27, 2011 Report Share Posted April 27, 2011 I went private and did IVF. My last chance. The pregnancy lasted 9 weeks. I've talked to doctors and specialists. I've had the tests. I know why. But none of that makes it better. You'd think that knowing it isn't your fault you can't carry a baby to term would make it better but you still blame yourself. You feel useless as a woman. Aw Tele, I'm so sorry for you! It must be a really horrible time for you! But, if what you want is a family, there are so many different options. You could have a surrogate mother or adopt a baby. There are always other options Tele! Stay positive as best you can! In fact, not having children or being able to have children is perhaps my biggest fear in reality. I feel the exact same way! A few years ago, I used to wear like really tight skinny jeans, and only recently I found out how damaging they can be! If they are too tight around the lower abdomen, they can put pressure on the uterus or ovaries, and some women have known to become infertile because of that! So now, I am like super careful as to what I wear. It rarely happens like but I'm being careful none the less! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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